LOVE

In 2010 are 23-29 year olds capable of starting at the very place they are in and begin to make strides towards building a life together with their spouse?

Once upon a time guys and gals met and at an even younger age and began to build their lives togetherand that was the way a relationship or love began.

Well those days seem to be far few and in between. Since with my generation it appears to be all about your resume!!! So many people I know are looking for LOVE but moreover they are looking for GRADE A RESUMES!!

Where did you go to school?
How about your graduate work?
Have you lived aboard?
Have you been aboard?
Where do you work?
How much money do you earn?

How I see it: some sacrifice must be made my BROTHERS & SISTERS?

So my Brothers; you want a woman who is accomplished and I feel you? Us sister’s want a man who is accomplished too!

But on our quest for love I believe we have to open up and see the potential in our spouse. We should get to understand where they are coming from and how much they have accomplished despite the tribulations they encountered. From there we may be able to make a better assessment if you this person has what it takes to build together.

It is nice to meet someone whose resume is grade A but reality is will this person be able to sacrifice to grow with you, to make an effort to love and support you through hardship and prosperity? Will this person be able to appreciate your presence in their life? Will they Thank God for you?

Or will they continue to be so wrapped up in building their resume. They slack on their relationship and we all know slacking on a relationship will lead to its demise!

Therefore I believe it is important for us young people to find balance, look for the spouse who has achieved but who is willing to grow and build with you. So when you jump in that "love thing" the both of you will be able to not only to build your resumes but you will both be willing to excute compassion compromise and sacrifice to make the love you share better.

Are you willing to compromise and sacrifice some things to make the love you find or share better?

mother

The opportunity never presented itself for my mom and I to get personal. She never expressed to me in her own words why she is in the position she is in. I can only infer as to why she is in the position she is in.

When I think of my mother being defeated by her shortcomings I feel frightened because I do not want to be defeated by own shortcomings like my mother has been by hers. We all know that the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. So I have to keep pushing myself to achieve because I don’t know if my mother’s shortcomings are innately apart of me.

At times it is disheartening to face the fact that I do not have a close relationship with my mother and more than likely never will. If we were closer perhaps I would have a better understanding of who she is.

At times I think of know who I may have been if my mother played a significant role in my life. Would I have benefited from my mother’s presence? No one knows the answer to that.

Despite the trails I have encounter in regards to my mother presence or lack of I just keep on living, learning, smiling, laughing, loving, dreaming, believing, achieving and I cry when I need to.


I encourage you all who have a mother or a father who is not apart of your life to do the same. Prove against adversity and keep on persevering!

NEW ORLEANS IS ON THE MIND:

Two years after Hurricane Katrina
on March 18, 2007 after a 19-hour bus ride, I arrived in New Orleans; as a volunteer.

During my time in the N.O. I met survivors of Katrina, people who had weary sighs along with a relentless strength to stay in a place that they knew as home. People who were dedicated to rebuilding their life and their culture after such a devastating catastrophe.

The intimate conservations I shared with New Orleanians were more then discussing devastation of the storm. New Orleanians offered me words of inspiration and encouragement. It was an encouragement that stressed the importance of me being a leader and a fighter for my people, my community, and my culture.

For me tonight’s recollection of my journey to New Orleans inspired my new blog series. As I begin my journey as an educator. I am passionate about teaching students how to connect their stories to their community; then to all of humanity.
I want to share my experiences with you just like the New Orleanians did with me. While my experiences are unique and personal, there is a resemblance in my personal journey to yours.

I am hoping my words to you will mirror the encouragement, the inspiration, and the empowerment that I felt from the words spoken to me by the mouths of New Orleanians.